Should I or Shouldn’t I? How to Make Godly Decisions Without Losing Your Mind

Life is basically one long game of “Should I or shouldn’t I?”

Should I eat the salad or the fries? 🥗🍟Should I text him back or leave him on read?

📱👀Should I take that new job or stay where I’m at?

Some choices are harmless (fries, always fries). Others? They feel like the weight of the universe is hanging on your answer. And if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had moments where your brain turns into a hamster on a wheel—running nonstop, getting nowhere, and burning out in the process.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through decisions. Faith-aligned decision-making is like having divine GPS. You don’t just guess and hope for the best—you align with God’s wisdom, peace, and purpose.

Let’s break down why it matters and how you can actually do it (without spiraling into 37 “what if” scenarios).

Why Faith-Aligned Decisions Matter

Ever made a decision that looked shiny at first, but later made you go, “Yikes, what was I thinking?” Same. That’s what happens when you decide based on panic, pressure, or Pinterest quotes instead of God’s truth.

When your decisions are faith-aligned, though, you:

• Stay calm when emotions are doing backflips.

• Discern what actually matters instead of obsessing over the minor stuff.

• Avoid impulse choices that feel good now but make you cringe later.

• Walk in peace even when you don’t have every detail figured out.

  
  

Basically, faith-aligned decisions save you from messy detours—and you don’t end up crying in your car over something God never told you to choose in the first place.

How to Actually Do This (Without Overthinking Yourself Into a Nap)

Here’s your step-by-step:

1. Pause and Pray

   Don’t rush. Prayer is your first stop, not your last resort. God isn’t intimidated by your messy thoughts—bring them all.

2. Seek God’s Word

   The Bible is full of wisdom. Proverbs alone could keep you out of half the drama you’ve ever walked into. (Don’t side-eye me—you know it’s true.)

3. Talk to Trusted People

   Not everybody needs a vote. But wise, godly counsel? Golden. Call the friend who tells you the truth, not the one who just co-signs your chaos.

4. Check Your Peace

   God gave you a brain and emotions for a reason. If you’re losing sleep and your stomach is in knots, that’s a sign. If you feel peace, lean into it.

5. Decide and Move

   At some point, you’ve got to stop praying in circles and make the choice. God can steer a moving car better than a parked one.

6. Reflect and Adjust

   Spoiler: not every choice will be flawless. That’s okay—God’s grace covers the reroutes.

   
   

Scripture That Slaps (In the Best Way)

• Proverbs 3:5–6 — Trust God more than your own “pros and cons” list.

• James 1:5 — Wisdom is free for the asking. No application fee.

• Psalm 32:8 — God is like the best coach ever—He instructs, teaches, and guides with love.

• Philippians 4:6–7 — Prayer beats anxiety every single time.

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Beating Fear in the Decision-Making Process

Fear will scream: “What if you mess up? What if you ruin your life?!”

Faith whispers: “God’s got you.”

Here’s how to shut fear down:

• Remember God’s track record—He hasn’t dropped you yet.

• Focus on His promises instead of the endless “what ifs.”

• Take the next right step, not all 50 at once.

• Practice gratitude—it’s basically kryptonite for fear.

• Call your people—they’ll pray with you and remind you of the truth.

  
  

Trusting God’s Timing (aka the Hard Part)

Sometimes, you’re ready to go, but the door is still locked.

Annoying? Yes. Punishment? No. Waiting is often God’s way of preparing you.

Don’t kick down doors out of impatience. God’s timing is rarely fast, but it’s always right.

The Bottom Line

Beloved, decision-making doesn’t have to feel like walking a tightrope without a net. Faith-aligned choices are about partnership, not perfection.

So next time you’re spiraling in “should I or shouldn’t I,” remember this: pray, get in the Word, seek counsel, check your peace, and then MOVE.

Because God doesn’t just want you to make good choices—He wants you to make godly ones. And when He’s your guide, even the “wrong” road becomes the right lesson.

With love, laughs, and a whole lot of faith,

Adrienne K.