Let's Heal Together!

Many of us have been surviving for so long that we stopped questioning the weight. We adjusted. We adapted. We became “strong.” We learned how to function with chronic exhaustion, emotional self-neglect, inconsistent relationships, and unspoken resentment—and then we called that maturity. But healing does not begin where coping is constantly justified. Healing begins where truth interrupts what you’ve learned to endure.

So if “God as Father” makes you uncomfortable, guarded, or quietly skeptical… take a breath. That’s not rebellion. That’s history talking. And no, pretending you don’t feel that way hasn’t actually healed anything yet. (Ask me how I know... 😌)

Can we be honest for a moment? The last five years have kicked us in our… well, you know. And most of us have not taken the time to truly process what we’ve lived through—let alone the things we already had packed away long before the world shut down. We kept moving. We kept functioning. We kept surviving. But healing? That often got pushed to the back burner.

When we crown our experiences as truth, we quietly put God on trial. We judge His character through the lens of our disappointment. We measure His faithfulness by how predictable He’s been. And then we wonder why our faith feels fragile and our emotions feel chaotic.

Somewhere along the way, many of us absorbed this idea that if God wanted to heal something in us, He would. Full stop. No involvement required. Just pray, trust, and keep it moving. And when the healing didn’t come the way we expected, we didn’t question the framework — we questioned ourselves.

Well, let’s just start with the truth we don’t like to admit: half of our emotional chaos isn’t even coming from life — it’s coming from the storyline we secretly wrote for God without giving Him a copy of the script. 

Let’s bring this into real life. Misalignment isn’t only about missing God’s will. It’s about the emotional storms we start experiencing when we’re functioning out of fear, self-protection, unresolved trauma, or assumptions instead of truth.

Let me say this with all the love, authority, and Holy Spirit fire in me: God may be quiet, but He’s not careless. Don’t let your feelings lie to you. His silence is not neglect — it’s strategy.

Healing isn’t just about feeling better — it’s about becoming whole. And sometimes, that means God has to undo everything that wasn’t built on truth.

It’s when you slap a Bible verse on top of a deep wound and call it “trusting God.”It’s when you tell yourself you’ve “forgiven and moved on,” but you can’t stand to hear that person’s name. It’s when you keep saying “God’s got it” — but your chest tightens every time the memory resurfaces.

You know exactly who you are. You’re the dependable one. The go-to. The “you got this” friend. The one who holds it all together when everyone else is coming unglued. You pray for people when they’re falling apart — and then go cry in your car afterward because you can’t even remember the last time someone asked you if you were okay.

It’s easy to become emotionally unavailable and call it “self-awareness.” It’s easy to detach and call it “discernment.” But God doesn’t heal you so you can become colder — He heals you so you can love better.

So, let’s talk about how to actually survive when life feels upside down—when you’re trusting God, but your emotions are bouncing from faith to fear to frustration and back again like an Olympic gymnast.

But what I am saying is that not everything that feels scary, overwhelming, or uncomfortable deserves to be labeled “anxiety.” Sometimes it’s just plain ol’ fear. And fear, my friends, is something Scripture has a lot to say about.

Ignoring your emotions doesn’t erase them—it just buries them alive, and buried emotions don’t die; they leak out. In your tone, your choices, your relationships, your health.

Left unchecked, triggers don’t just affect you. They affect your relationships, your peace, and even the way you show up for God’s calling on your life.

Jesus laid down His life, but He didn’t lay down His boundaries. He said “no” to things that didn’t align with His Father’s will—without apology, without lengthy explanations, and without a guilt trip on Himself afterward.

What does emotional wellness actually look like on the other side of healing with Christ? Let’s talk about it—the good, the bad, and the surprisingly awkward.